- 1 1. Find a positive attitude in a difficult situation
- 2 2. Learn and live in a positive environment
- 3 3. Take it slow
- 4 4. Don’t try to suppress a mountain of trivial obstacles
- 5 5. Don’t let vague fears overwhelm you from what you want to do
- 6 6. Add values and good things to someone’s life
- 7 7. Exercise regularly, eat and sleep well
- 8 8. Learn to think about others in a healthy way
- 9 9. If someone still wants to make fun of you, you know what to do
- 10 10. Let’s start a new day positively
- 11 11. Don’t think of just living through the day
1. Find a positive attitude in a difficult situation
One of the simplest yet most effective things to do to build a more positive outlook is to think positively as often as possible.
When we are in a seemingly difficult situation – be it we make a mistake, we fail or stumble in some way – we ask ourselves questions like:
- What is a positive or good thing about this?
- What are our chances in this situation?
Doing so will be much better than what we have done before in similar situations. Because when we think back, we always ask ourselves how much we got into that story and how much worse the story has gotten to this day.
We use these questions but not always immediately. Often we need a moment to think about the emotions that arise before we act. Trying to force yourself to think positive while you’re still in turmoil or in shock usually doesn’t work.
2. Learn and live in a positive environment
The people you spend time with and the things you reach from afar like TV, the internet or magazines will have a big influence on how you perceive them.
To be able to stay positive and develop positive thoughts it is essential that something has a big influence on your life that energizes and uplifts you instead of dragging you down.
So choose carefully what is right.
You can ask yourself, for example:
- Who are the 3 ugliest people we’ve ever played?
- What are the 3 most negative sources of information we have ever seen or read?
Answer it yourself and think about how you could spend less time on one of those pastimes this week.
And how can you comfortably spend more time on the positive things and the good people in your life.
3. Take it slow
We find that when we go too fast, when we try to think, talk, eat or go around our lives too quickly, things don’t go so well.
Increased stress. Thinking about something negative comes when it starts to pile up and we feel like our energy is dwindling.
But if we slow down for just a minute—even if we force ourselves by jogging, chatting, or eating slower—then our mind and body will calm down. And then it’s very easy to think positively and thoughtfully about things, and come back to a more optimistic and constructive attitude.
4. Don’t try to suppress a mountain of trivial obstacles
It’s actually easy to be pessimistic, especially when you’re stressed or when you’re walking too fast. Positive thoughts are easily filled with negative ones.
And obstacles can become a big and scary mountain in your mind.
A simple 3-step way to deal with situations like these so they can’t get out of your hands:
- Say no : In your head, shout “STOP!” or “NO”, we will not go down that road again!” until these thoughts start to get stuck in your head.
- Breathe : After you’ve blown your mind away by shouting in your head, sit down and hold the pose. Breathe through your belly and focus on your inner and outer breaths for a minute or two to stabilize your mind and body.
- Refocus : Question your mountain of thoughts by talking to someone close to you and choosing advice based on the situation. Or simply ask yourself about it to broaden your perspective or to clear it up: this problem in 5 years? Or 5 weeks?
5. Don’t let vague fears overwhelm you from what you want to do
Sometimes you want a chance in life. Start a new habit that makes you feel different, a new job, or invite someone for a first date.
A common trap when you want to do one of these things is to lose your vague fear of what might happen if you actually act.
And because the mind is affected by those fears, it creates nightmares.
We know. We have encountered that situation many times.
So we’ve learned to ask ourselves this: really, what’s the worst that could happen?
When we answered this for ourselves, we also spent a lot of time trying to figure out what we could do if it were different from what happened.
We spend a few years discovering that the worst that can actually happen is often not as scary as the nightmare our minds could imagine.
Answering it clearly this way doesn’t take much time or effort and it can help you avoid a lot of mind-bending things. And help you move on, step out into the life of freedom and take a chance.
6. Add values and good things to someone’s life
If you give something, you will get back from the world and the people around you.
Not necessarily from everyone. And that’s not always the case.
But what you send out will have a big impact.
How you send it to them and how you treat them will be what you get in return. And the way you treat others or how you think of them will have a big influence on how you treat yourself and think about yourself.
So give values and give positives, for example:
- Help . Give someone a hand while they are in transit. Give a friend a hitchhiking across the street. Or if they need information, they should help by doing a Google search or asking your friends
- Listen . Sometimes people don’t want direct help. They just want someone there to listen attentively to what they have to say to ease their mind a little.
- Spiritual boost . Let’s laugh. Give someone a hug when they really need it. Play a good song while hanging out with friends or recommend a fun movie for your evening. Either giving encouragement when someone is having a pretty bad day or going through a crisis.
7. Exercise regularly, eat and sleep well
This is of course necessary.
But we know a very, very big effect from a deep night’s sleep or a day at work when thinking pessimistically or having a lot of preoccupations in mind.
And we also know, very simply, we will not be able to concentrate when our stomach is empty.
So we strongly suggest to be careful with these simple habits even though it may sound rather boring. But how much influence they have depends on how you manage them.
8. Learn to think about others in a healthy way
One of the most common fears is the fear of criticism. It can pull people back from where they were in order to get what they want. Because a bad mood from someone’s words or emails can hurt or upset you. And rejection is also a cause.
But if you want to take action from your really serious inner thoughts, fear is no longer a problem. Then the secret is learning to manage in a positive mood. By doing these things the fear will become less frightening and will affect you less if you listen to and accept those criticisms.
We often use the following four steps to receive criticism. Maybe they will help you:
- Step 1: Don’t reply right away . When you are angry, sad, or angry, give yourself some time to calm down before you respond. Take at least a breath or time to compose a message before you reply.
- Step 2: Seriously listen to criticism. Try to open your heart and think about how that text can help you. Ask yourself: What can we learn from this? Is there something here that we don’t want to hear that helps us?
- Step 3: Remember that criticism isn’t just about you. Sometimes criticism is very helpful. Sometimes they are simply a little hurt or someone is angry because they are having a bad day, a year or a job is also not good. To lessen the malice of such words- often getting angry or paying too much attention to it would be a no-brainer- try to understand. We tell ourselves that this person must be uncomfortable right now.
- Step 4: Answer back or ignore. It doesn’t matter how much content you have, for example in an email, we try to keep it open and caring. We can ask a few more questions to get better, more specific things. And if they don’t respond anymore or we simply accidentally touch them back then we should stop talking and let time pass.
9. If someone still wants to make fun of you, you know what to do
Sometimes someone still wants to poke the wheel and hurt you. Although you have already used the tools above.
2 things helped us get through it:
- Let it go. Confiding the story to someone very close to you so that the story is clear as to how it really is, this will help you. And to find a healthier perspective in a situation like this.
- Strengthen your stance. We’ve found after a few years that with a strong stance, things are only mildly affected and they’re not enough to slow down our day. The negativity from others makes us jump even further.
10. Let’s start a new day positively
How you start your day often has a huge impact on the rest of the day.
So be careful about how you use your morning. If you start at full speed, it will take a lot at the end of the day and by that time stress and awareness will also fade into your life, and as such, negative thoughts will also come in very quickly.
If you are in the situation of starting your day quite slowly, by having a good story with family or friends or you take the time to read a book or listen to inspirational things during breakfast, on the bus on commuting to work will make a huge difference in how your day goes.
11. Don’t think of just living through the day
When you spend time in the present moment, it becomes much simpler to access positive emotions and be realistic about what you can do with your life.
When you are disoriented to the past or the future like so many of us spend too much time worrying about simple things becoming complicated. And past failures and mistakes will come back to drown you with pessimism.
By starting your morning off slowly and hoping to last as much as you can with the rest of the day, this will help you become very grounded in your present moment.
Another simple way to go back very quickly to where you are and get back to focus is to just focus on what’s going on around you right now for a few minutes with full spirit. Look at it. Hear it. Feel its taste. Feel the morning light, the afternoon rain or the cool breeze on your skin.
This may at first seem like a very small thing or nothing at all. But simply getting back in touch with life, with the present moment actually has a very positive effect on the rest of the day.
Here are 11 smart habits to help you stay positive every day. Apply these methods to feel yourself gradually thinking positively, living a more useful and healthier life over time.